How To Get Rid Of Bad Thoughts: 4 Simple Hacks
Your thoughts are on the front line when it comes to your life. They are the foundation for everything.
At the most fundamental level, a positive mind is the springboard for action, inspiration, and a life that is full of joy, love, and peace. A positive mind allows you to live fully in the present moment.
Bad thoughts are bound to arise from time to time, they just have to be dealt with in a healthy and appropriate way.
Most of them arise from worries about events that have already been and gone, or worries about the immediate future, or even from worries about life decades down the line.
Whatever the source of your bad thoughts, you should know that you are not your thoughts. Your thoughts do not even really belong to you. You are simply an observer.
When you experience a bad thought, you should imagine it as a cloud above your head that is drifting away from you.
If you can exercise a certain amount of detachment, a negative thought can quickly be acknowledged, dealt with, and your mind can return to the present moment.
Most of the time, you will come to realize that the thought only represented a fear, or that the perceived problem was self-created by the thought itself.
When bad thoughts arise too often, they become like a plague on your mind. They can create tension in your relationships, in your job, and within your own being, if they are not properly dealt with.
You can take back control, starting right now.
How To Take Back Control of Your Thoughts
1. Communicate Honestly
Thoughts are not supposed to be got rid of, even if they are negative. It is important that you embrace all of your thoughts and emotions in a healthy and natural way.
This requires proper communication with others. Sometimes you just have to get it all off your chest!
There is never a need to blow your lid off. Simmer down and communicate well, with an open and honest approach. You should also communicate well with yourself.
Try to question the root of your negative thought, and always consider whether your own perceptions are at least a little at fault.
2. Use Affirmations and Positive Self-Talk
The barriers of the conscious mind, which contain all of your learnt negativity, can be bypassed using affirmations, which breach the subconscious and deliver inspiring and positive messages.
You can create and repeat positive messages to yourself. Feel free to craft your own to suit your exact situation. It may seem daft if you have never tried it before, but it works, of that you can be sure.
Repeat it to yourself in the morning, and last thing at night, until you feel it settle in and replace your negative thoughts.
“I am going to succeed. I love myself. I am a good person.”
A great book for reinforcing this idea is called Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant. He emphasizes the importance of loving your self always, completely and unconditionally.
A negative mind can prevent you from living in the present. If you attach yourself to your bad thoughts, then you will soon drift off into a daydream of negativity.
The trick is to acknowledge the thought, and let it drift on by. In order that bad thought does not consume you, it can be dealt with in a healthy way using the techniques mentioned: honest communication, control over your trail of thought, and affirmations.
When you have a certain amount of control over your mind, you will have a much easier time living in the present.
When you are living in the present your life will likely feel much happier, fuller, and more peaceful, and so the positive loop perpetuates.
3. Stay in the Present
There are several ways in which you can learn to become fully present. Ancient techniques such as meditation have been gaining continuous scientific validation, and today people all across the world are applying it, and seeing miraculous benefits.
With meditation, you can gain further control of your mind, and live a more focused, positive life.
Meditation is a practice, and like any practice, you must put in the time and energy to learn how to do it, and to truly feel the results.
You would not play the piano and instantly expect to learn Mozart, so be patient with yourself, and know that you will see positive change in time.
Anyone can partake in this meditation, regardless of your faith, or your life situation. All it requires is your own focus.
You can adapt at as you please, and with experience you will no longer need it as a template.
- Sit comfortably in a place that is convenient for you. Try to pick a time when you are unlikely to be disturbed. Relaaax.
- Spend some time simply settling in, and relaxing your body and mind. There is nowhere to go, and this time is just for you to enjoy. You can sit here, in this moment, free of all need to worry. You can relax. Spend as long as you want in simple relaxation. Know that you deserve this.
- If you feel any thoughts come in to your mind, simply acknowledge them, and let them drift on by. Do not push against them, but do not delve into them. Come back to your breathing.
- Feel the space between thoughts, and rest in the peace contained within it. Breathe. Rest in the present moment, eternal, and free of all thought.
- Go about your day, but with a much clearer awareness of the present moment, full of gratitude for what you have and a perspective that dwarfs your negative niggles. In the present you feel peace, and positivity.
Meditation is a great tool for freeing yourself from negative thought, by staying in the present moment. Regular meditation tends to lead to improvements in all areas of life, including your mind and your happiness.
By dealing with your negative thoughts, and staying present in the moment, you can take control of your mind.
About the author
Sarah is a Berlin based entrepreneur, avid yoga practitioner and lifestyle writer specializing in men’s dating advice.
Her mission is to help people to date more successfully and find true, fulfilling love. At Wingman Magazine, she shares her thoughts on personal growth.